Every one wants to be happy. Happy people enjoy life more than unhappy people. Happy people seem to have more friends. Happy people are a pleasure to be with.
How can you bring more happiness into your life? Here are three suggestions.
Stop Saying “Can’t”
When you say you can’t do something or something can’t be done, you are saying that there is no alternative to what is happening now. You are saying there are no other options. You are being inflexible and blinkered.
When you think about a situation, there are always other ways of dealing with it. You can always find different ways of looking at a problem; you can always use different approaches to deal with an incident.
Give yourself permission to think and act differently. Give yourself permission to look for more solutions and move from “can’t” to “can”. Make changes, achieve more and be happier as a result.
Start Listening To Yourself
You have lots of good ideas. You can find solutions to problems. You can find ways to deal with situations you encounter.
The trouble is that you may not believe in your abilities. You may be tempted to belittle your achievements. You may automatically assume that other people’s ideas are better than your own. You may also accept other people’s criticisms of you and your ideas too readily.
It is time to start listening to your own ideas.
Give your own ideas as much consideration as you give the ideas of other people. Think things through. Consider carefully if your idea will work and how well it will work.
Be critical of yourself, but not over-critical. Be willing to recognise flaws in your thinking, but look for improvements to your plans rather than discarding them. Do not be too quick to rubbish your ideas simply because they are your ideas.
Respect your solutions and your plans and you will respect yourself more. As a result your self-confidence will grow and you will be happier.
Aim To Be Happy
Your wellbeing matters. You matter. You spend a lot of time looking after the needs of others and doing things that make them happy. You do this because you want the people who matter to you to be happy. Think about your own happiness, too. You are not being selfish if you think about making your own life more enjoyable as well as working on helping other people to be happy.
Accept that being happy is a legitimate goal for you, just as it is for other people. Break the habit of always putting other people’s happiness ahead of your own. Think about yourself. Commit to doing some things for no other reason than that you gain satisfaction from doing them. Aim to be happy and believe that you have the right to be happy and you will be amazed at the results you achieve.
More Happiness For You
Remind yourself often that happiness is for every one, not just for other people. Set out to bring more happiness into your own life and you will find you are helping to create happiness in the lives of the people around you, too. Being happy helps every one and especially yourself, so pay more attention to happiness.
Monica Varo is an integrative therapist. She helps her clients to become the people they always hoped they could be. Call her on: 07772 467444 when you are ready to learn how to think more positively about your life today and in the future.